42. Second Funeral: What Widows Bury After the Burial - Empowering Widows - Widow Empowerment - Empowering And Inspiring Generations
42. Second Funeral: What Widows Bury After the Burial The house had been emptied by the time she came home from hospital. The plates, the mattress, the children's school uniforms, the curtains ae all gone. What was left was a broom standing in the bathroom. That is the second funeral. The first one has a programme, a date and a crowd that brings food and says the right things. The second one happens quietly, in the weeks after, and nobody sends condolences for it. Nobody brings a plate. Dianah Kamande knows both. In 2013, in Kenya, her husband attacked her and then took his own life. She was 30, and she spent two months in hospital with 21 cuts to her head and metal plates in her left hand. While she was there, his family cleared her house. They took everything, including her daughters' clothes. They said she had killed their son so that she could remarry. Then came the paperwork layer of grief. The same day she was served with a summons over his death, she received a ter...